2017: Making Your Own Dream

I don’t really know how to start this year except to say, damn I’m happy we’ve all made it to 2017.

I wrote a post last year at this time about how 2015 was a pretty rough year. It was a year of terrible work experiences, multiple let downs, and a lot of growing up. I started 2016 with so much uncertainty on everything in my life and I could feel my anxiety about the future starting to rip me apart. My anxiety was telling me “You can’t do it. You will fail” and I was starting to believe it as I went through many internship interviews that didn’t end in offers. As the winter ended I was more stressed than I have probably ever been in my life and it definitely wasn’t healthy.

Luckily, I’ve always been surrounded by an incredibly supportive network of family and friends who made me realize that the reason for my anxiety and feeling of failure was because I was trying to do and be something that wasn’t me. I was applying for jobs that I could never actually picture myself doing and I was forcing myself to try and to conform to this prescribed career path and life that wasn’t what I really wanted. I realized that trying to fit into this mold wasn’t working, and I had to find a way to do what would make me happy.

Now I wouldn’t say the moment I had this realization all my anxiety fell away, but what did happen is that I found myself making choices that led to experiences and opportunities I was actually excited about. I left interviews raving about the people I’d met and imagining myself working for the company. I stopped doing things I didn’t actually want to do and spent that time focusing on me and what I love. The changed I made led to two amazing internships that not only helped me figure out where I’d like my career to take me, but also made me confident in the fact that I can and will succeed. These experiences allowed me to meet people whom I truly admire and hope to be like someday, something that I’d never really had at work before. By pursuing the things I really love I was given opportunities like speaking on a panel of bloggers  and made some of the best memories on spontaneous trips (Example 1, 2 & 3).

Letting go of the fear of not doing what others wanted or expected and instead just focusing on my dreams and passions made 2016 one of my best years yet. So, instead of trying to make plans or goals for 2017 (because can we ever really predict the future?), I’m making a promise to myself to keep working hard to create a life that I love and making choices that are based on what I want, not what others expect.

For everyone out there, whether you’re a senior in high school waiting on college decisions, a senior in college on the job hunt, or a 30-something feeling in a rut, I challenge you do the same. Believe in your ability to create a life for yourself and we’ll all make 2017 an amazing year.

Instagram

  • About to go buy myself a personal fan to make it through this heat wave 😰 When it comes to NYCs humid summers a loose maxi or midi is the way to go! Linked similar ones under $70 via @liketoknow.it ✨ http://liketk.it/2Dsne #whenwearstyle
  • Ate & drank my way through this past weekend including the perfect afternoon at Grand Banks ⛵️ And of course I always have my favorite @mejuri pieces layered including my newest piece the ‘Honey Necklace’ ✨ Swipe 👉🏼 for more detail! #finecrew #gifted #whenwearnyc
  • 🏙🗽NYC life is going to the most obscure Trader Joe’s to avoid lines and then sweating all your makeup off waiting for the subway while trying to to bring said groceries home 😂🤦🏼‍♀️At least I got a pretty flowers out of it 💐 Who feels me?? #whenwearnyc
  • Love traveling on the weekends, but love coming home to this even more ✨🏠 #whenwearhome .
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Slowly but surely feeling like my room is coming together! This pom pom duvet & shams were the best find for under $35! Linked exact duvet, quilt, and rugs & similar items for the other pieces via @liketoknow.it and at the link in my bio || http://liketk.it/2DbY7
  • Couldn’t have asked for a better long weekend ☀️ The perfect amount of home cooking, ice cream, and ocean time and as always it’s a little hard to leave my favorite place ❤️🌊
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Linking my outfit via @liketoknow.it ✨ My tote is under $80 and perfect for all your summer vacations! http://liketk.it/2D8RC  #whenweartravels
  • Just gonna try to live out last weekend until this next one starts 😂 Who’s with me??
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There are still a few sizes left of my top & I’ve linked this year’s version of my shoes via @liketoknow.it ✨ http://liketk.it/2D1fZ

@carolinestfrancis

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